Some of you have asked us to include on this site those books and resources we have found particularly helpful in our ministry to divorced and single adults.
Like the FAQ's, this page will be a work in progress. As we discover new or noteworthy things, we will pass them along.
FOOL-PROOFING YOUR LIFE by Jan Silvious
"An honorable way to deal with the impossible people in your life".
This book is not for the timid. Jan Silvious, using compassion, grace and
Biblical truth offers us a compelling explanation for the intractable behaviors
of the impossible people we've allowed into our lives. If you have suffered
enough with an impossible person that you are willing to learn the unblemished
truth about them (and yourself); I believe this book might be indispensable for
you. Many people tell us they continue to refer back to this book
for insight into their ongoing lives and difficult relationships.
BOUNDARIES by Dr's Henry Cloud
and John Townsend
I am usually not a big fan of Christian
Psychology, but these guys have also done an admirable job
of teaching Christians how to relate successfully to impossible people.
In a Biblical, "Matter of fact" style, Cloud and Townsend teach us that it is
possible and necessary
to simply say "No" to those individuals who continually use and manipulate us.
THE UNSPOKEN RULES OF
LOVE by Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel A. Brooks Jr.
"What women don't know and men won't tell you".
I believe this is a "Must read" for every single Christian woman. Michelle Hammond outlines
very lovingly, Biblically and creatively, twelve unspoken rules that include
most everything a woman must do and not do, in order to have, First: a
successful life as a woman of God, and Second: successful and quality
relationships with men.
TOO CLOSE, TOO SOON by
Dr's Jim A. Talley & Bobbie Reed
These two have written the definitive work for
Christian singles on the subject of managing the time you spend together in a
new relationship to avoid being blinded to problems and shortcomings by
premature love and desire that turns to craving and neediness.
We paraphrase
some of their ideas in our booklet and we are indebted to them for their work.
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Websites:
Some will help you; some might inform you; some could make you laugh
www.ficm.org/whoiam.htm
This is a pretty cool little site, it is a list of
scripture references that will remind you
of who Jesus says you are, rather than who or what anyone else thinks you are.
The references link to a Bible website to give you the whole verse and context.
www.e-sword.net
You can download all kinds of Bibles and reference
materials free-of-charge.
It includes some cool note-taking and look-up
features.
Once downloaded,
everything is resident on your computer, so you don't need an
Internet connection to use it.
www.online-bible.com/maconlinebible I don't own a Macintosh, but Pastor Mike says this is as good as e-sword, for Apple users. Like e-sword, most of it appears to be free. www.homestarrunner.com
I love this site, but not everyone shares my juvenile sense of humor. It is a cartoon site that features a goofy guy in a track suit named Homestar, but the real star of the show is an even goofier (and meaner) guy named Strong Bad. These individuals, along with a cast of assorted family, friends, neighbors and pets come together in a loosely-connected series to create imaginative fun and disconnected mayhem. If you hate this site, I'm truly sorry... If it makes you laugh, or, if it creates a humorous diversion from your season of difficulty, you're welcome.